This week, Jamie Ridler asks us What do you wish to say no to? As women, I think we are socialized to say yes: yes to a neighbor, yes to a PTA committee, yes to our families. Yes, we’ll take on an extra commitment that will impinge upon our much needed down time. It’s so easy to say “No more!” in our minds, but so much more difficult to say it to the person who is asking the question!
I’m lucky — I don’t work outside the house and I don’t have kids, so there aren’t as many voices begging for my attention as there might be for another woman. And, I have a wonderfully supportive husband who doesn’t make many demands on me, either. Even so, there are plenty of things I’d like to say no to.
I’d like to say no to disorganization and procrastination.
I’d like to say no to all the hours I spent on the internet each week that are just time sucks.
I’d like to say no to the almost nightly insomnia I experience.
I’d like to say no to self-criticism and self-judgement. To all the nagging questions I ask of my self-confidence.
All of which begs the question: What do I wish to say YES to?
I wish to say yes to love and commitment, in all it’s forms, in my life.
I wish to say yes to organization, inspiration, and creativity.
I wish to say yes to sweet, dreamful sleep each night.
I wish to say yes to our new home (which I am still looking for).
I wish to say yes to supporting and encouraging myself to spread my wings.
As Abraham Hicks says, knowing what you don’t want tells you what you do want. Thanks, Jamie, for helping me sort this out!